i don't need to be in my perfect self when hanging out with friends or strangers.
it is so much better and feels like a great relief to me to be a dwarf. there are way more princesses and princes at the table who wanted to be seen, heard and praised. i used to struggle with being my perfect self when hanging out with friends.
i need to shower right before going out for dinner, even though i just showered in the morning. i need to put on my favorite cloth, earrings, perfumes etc. i need to make sure i had good sleep last night, and a good day in the morning, so i'm fully energized and look positive.
holy cow, don't bother to ask how many things i pushed myself to prepare, just to go out for dinner, which other people don't even care how i looked. people care more about the conversation, what you talked, and how you listened. i started to go out more with friends wearing my comfy cotton shirt and sweatpants, fully engaged in the conversation and the moment.
being a dwarf, a good listener and fully engaged in the moment with others. people will like you. showing up in a crappy self, people might like you even more, because it makes them feel superior, and see their lives are so much better than yours.
remember the time when you were going through some struggles, didn't you feel better if someone else told you an even worse story happened to them? didn't you feel better seeing sad news on social media? (sorry i'm evil)
who do you want to be?
doc, sneezy, grumpy, happy, bashful, sleepy and dopey, or,,,snow white?
i want to be dopey
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