enneagram type 2: the helper

i have a partial trait of enneagram type 2, especially the "dark" side - possessive, controlling, and "slip into doing things for others in order to be needed". i am not a people pleaser or an overly empathetic and sociable person, but oh boy, how much i shared the aggressive side of this type.

this is not my dominant type but i've always been wondering why i have such a strong connection to its shadow side. just recently i realized why after talking with my mom, who i think is an 80% helper. she loves me so much, unconditionally - never asks for anything back. she always gives me everything she has, including the freedom to do anything i wanted. the love is so generous to the point i sometimes feel being pua-ed (pick-up artists), and it is so heavy that drawn me under the water.

unconsciously a similar trait has grown in my heart - "the tendency to become over-involved in the lives of others, and the tendency to manipulate others to get their own emotional needs met".

i felt bad when thinking about my type 2 darkness might come from mom because i got so much love from her, and i'm always so proud to tell my friends how lucky i am with all the freedom she gave me.

well,

see,

that's the other side of my type 2 shadow.

greed and desire.

you ask for too much. it's time to learn how to give"unconditional love to self and others. feel it is a privilege to be in the lives of others."

peace 👌🏻